This video popped up on my phone by Lavendaire the other night and I love it so much! I have been enjoying her whole channel a lot lately and this topic is exactly what I have been thinking about. How IMPORTANT it is to fill our lives with the things that we love.
We have to make what we love the focus of our lives.
When we are doing what we love all of the little annoying jobs that we HAVE to do won’t matter so much and we will be happy to do them. We shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves all of the time!! We need to be fitting in more time for FUN!
I love the Stephen Covey concept of big rocks. I found an except from his book First Things First which I will share below (apparently even though the late Stephen Covey is well known for this concept it was something that was told to him by an associate!)
One day this expert was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration I’m sure those students will never forget. After I share it with you, you’ll never forget it either.
As this man stood in front of the group of high-powered over-achievers he said, “Okay, time for a quiz.” Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed mason jar and set it on a table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar.
When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, “Is this jar full?” Everyone in the class said, “Yes.” Then he said, “Really?” He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks.
Then he smiled and asked the group once more, “Is the jar full?” By this time the class was onto him. “Probably not,” one of them answered. “Good!” he replied. And he reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, “Is this jar full?”
“No!” the class shouted. Once again he said, “Good!” Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked up at the class and asked, “What is the point of this illustration?”
One eager beaver raised his hand and said, “The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard, you can always fit some more things into it!”
“No,” the speaker replied, “that’s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don’t put the big rocks in first, you’ll never get them in at all.”
In order to give to everyone else we need to make sure we are giving to ourselves. Don’t ever disregard your own unique needs as silly or unimportant – if it is important to you, IT IS IMPORTANT! Don’t keep putting off the things that you want to do. Make them your big rocks and fit them in first.
These are my current big rocks:
Family: Connecting with my kids + husband
Work: Writing for this blog + designing my new site
Health: Yoga + running + eating well
I am a creative person. I am happiest when I am creating something everyday, however small. For years I repressed this need to be creative and hardly ever made time for it. It wasn’t until I was run down and sick all the time that I realised that I had to make some massive shifts in my life where I started acknowledging my own unique needs.
It is also really important to SHARE what you love with others. Then you can get lots of big rocks in at once!!
I really want to spend time more time being creative with my kids. Last night I was working on my site while teaching my daughter how to use google sketch-up and I felt so happy! I love to run on the weekend mornings by myself but I am thinking sometimes it might be nice to include the whole family and find a bike track somewhere where we can all be active together.
Figure out what the most important things are for you to do. Once you get your big rocks in – the small things won’t matter so much they will just fall in to place. Don’t have too many big rocks – keep it simple!
So what do you love? What are your big rocks?
(Photo: Christina Cerda)