Another work-in-progress habit post! Today I am giving an update on my morning routine.
Lately, I have been going through a difficult situation which affects our family. Usually, if something needs resolving I like to always get it done straight away so I can put it out of my mind! Unfortunately resolving this situation is completely out of my control. I have spent some time lately feeling helpless, stressed, angry and frustrated. But I am quickly realising that these emotions are completely pointless and they don’t fix anything. When we are in a situation that we feel is out of our control we really need to understand that WE ARE in control – of ourselves. Negative emotions don’t solve or fix anything and keep us stuck.
The only thing we really can control is ourselves and how we respond to difficult situations.
Life is going to give us challenging situations to help us grow in ourselves and become more than we could ever imagine. I have spent some time off my yoga mat lately because I think I really did not want to connect with myself. Often when we feel stressed our default is to disconnect, from ourselves and from the people around us. Often we do this with addictive behaviours that don’t serve us but help us to switch off. What we really need to be doing is switching on!! Switch on and really give to yourself and everyone around you and be grateful for everything that you have.
I realised that I have stopped giving to myself lately. Here is a great clip from Oprah. When you are giving to yourself you can deal with anything that life throws at you because you are full and you always have something to give to others. I was still getting up early to write in my blog and work on my site but I wasn’t doing anything else that was strictly just for myself.
Yesterday I was reading ‘The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod. In his book, Hal talks about how during a difficult time he implemented a ‘Miracle Morning’ – A whole hour which he set aside first thing each morning to just give to himself.
In it, he recommended doing six steps to make up your own ‘Miracle Morning’. He uses the acronym ‘Life SAVERS’ – S=Silence, A=Affirmations, V=Visualisation, E=Exercise, R=Reading, S=Scribing. So this morning I tried it for the first time. I changed the order a little to suit me!
Here’s what I did for my first ‘Miracle Morning’:
Silence: I did this ten minute guided meditation for unblocking and expanding creativity. I really enjoyed this, it was really peaceful and soothing and really tapped into your imagination.
Affirmations: In his book, Hal said that you can use an inspirational quote as an affirmation and this quote from Marianne Williamson which I found later on in his book was particularly inspiring to read aloud. This is from her book ‘A Return to Love’:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing elightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsiously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
Visualisation: I really want to make a vision board! I think this would be a good project to do with my kids after school one day. Instead of visualising I just watched an uplifting video on You Tube. Here is a really inspiring video of how visualisation can really work!
Scribing (or writing): I started a Gratitude Journal in Evernote. A friend recently told me that she writes down ONE thing that she is grateful for each day before she goes to sleep. So I think that I will do this each morning before I start writing for my blog. Here is what I wrote today:
25/08 I am grateful for my children. I want to spend more time connecting with my kids and encouraging their imagination and creativity. They are both individual and unique and are deserving of my time and attention.
Reading: I did not make time to read this morning. I did plan to continue reading ‘The Miracle Morning’ while I ate my breakfast but I ended up watching some videos on my phone! Ideally, I will read at breakfast time – this is a work in progress! I think it is really important to read something uplifting and motivating every day.
If you think you have no possible time available in your day to do this here is a 6min version!
(Photo: Jacob Kriz)